How does a strong, ambitious woman who was born in Ghana stay true to her Ghanaian heritage while still cultivating a strong interracial marriage and family?
Heritages: Jackie is Ghanaian and Daniel is Irish American.
We talk about the following:
- Growing up in Ghana and moving to Colorado as a foreign exchange student
- Life in Ghana vs. life in Colorado
- How Jackie met and started dating a Caucasian man although her initial plan was to meet and marry a strong black man
- Being in a Ghanaian interracial marriage and talking with your white husband about racial discrimination and what it means to be a black person in America
- Dan’s experience when traveling back to Ghana with his family for a traditional Ghanaian wedding ceremony
- How being a lawyer impacts the conversations about race that Jackie has with her husband in their Ghanaian interracial marriage
- Raising a Ghanaian biracial son in a white community
- How Jackie self-identifies her Ghanaian biracial son and what she tells him about who he is and his culture
- Cultivating a strong Ghanaian interracial marriage and family while still celebrating and honoring one’s Ghanaian heritage and roots
- What it means to be multicultural
Jackie + Dan’s Traditional Ghanaian Wedding
Jackie Murphy shares:
• 31:09 – Just because you married to someone doesn’t mean they have to accept all of you.
• 33:17 – To be multicultural is to be a citizen of the world. Being multicultural is such a blessing because you are not just one person. You have all these different cultures in you and you have a unique ability to show empathy because you’re able to put yourself in other people’s shoes. So to be multicultural is to be enriched and to have so much love to give to everybody else around you.
• 35:10 – Don’t lose yourself. I am never going to lose myself or be embarrassed to be African because society thinks that my melanin is not good enough. I am going to be strong, outspoken, proud of my color. At the same time, I’m going to be loving and understanding of my husband who does not understand my culture. I’m going to respect the fact that we are different. Our race does matter, but at the end of the day, when you put race aside, we’re just two individuals who fell in love. You have to create love. I’m not in love with my husband every single day, but I choose him. Love is love. Go for it. But take your time to assimilate and warm them up into your culture. Don’t lose yourself and just create the process of loving whoever that person is with mutual respect.